Gain Courage To Free Yourself From Bad Habits: Try These Simple Hacks

You are probably one of the many who starts the year by creating a list of resolutions. You wish and hope for a better year ahead by making a firm decision to break some of your bad habits. These are the habits that keep you from getting that much-needed promotion, from achieving your dream figure, or from getting that much-coveted position.

But we all are aware of the reality that resolutions are likely to be broken. Sometimes, no matter how many self-help books you read or motivational audios you listen, breaking a bad habit is simply hard. Many falls to the lure of succumbing to old toxic ways all too quickly. Sometimes quitting or abandoning your resolutions appear to be the sweeter and easier route to take. But remember the saying that ‘no pain, no gain.’ So before giving up, you may first want to try the simple hacks below:

Recognize the bad behaviors

Bad habits are likely things that you enjoy doing so it may be hard for you to realize how these behaviors are jeopardizing your life. However, the first step in changing a certain behavior is realizing and accepting that you need to let it go because they do more harm than good.

Take small but steady steps

Once you identified the bad habits that are stunting your growth as an individual, it is time to take action! To make the process easier, it is better to take small steps by making slow changes in your habits. For example, If you want to start eating healthier, you may start by reducing soda intake in your diet on your first week. Then for week 2, you may start limiting fatty foods as well. As you go on setting and sticking to small goals, you make the process a lot more doable. At the same time, your confidence to commit to a goal will increase. By taking small but consistent steps, you may one day realize that you have completely erased the bad habit from your lifestyle.

Make a room for failure

Breaking a bad habit is like hitting a high, hard wall so the worst thing you can do is to expect the transition from bad habits to good ones to be easy. You are likely to lose motivation or fail at some point and it is perfectly normal. When you notice your willpower to start a good habit waning, remind yourself that what matters is you do not give up. By making realistic goals, you increase chances of success.

Mind your choice of words

Research has proven that the power of self-affirmation and word-choice will help you say goodbye to old and harmful habits permanently. A 2011 study published by the Journal of Consumer Research reveals the difference of uttering “I don’t” and “I can’t” statements when conditioning good habits. In the said research, one group was asked to use “I don’t “statements while another group used “I can’t” statements to avoid temptations. The study concludes that 8 out of 10 people in the group that used “I don’t” manages to successfully stick to their goals.

Form a support team

Who says you have to do it all by yourself? You can seek the help of the people around you as you try to eliminate a bad habit out of your system. Their support and encouragement may just provide the boost you need to hold on to that resolution.

You probably heard the saying “man is a creature of habit”. The quote emphasizes the importance of fostering good habits in having a more rewarding existence. So do all you can to break free from bad habits to move forward in life and to achieve your full potential.

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Foolproof Your Way To Success By Breaking These Habits & Mindsets

The vision of triumph gives many of us the strength to go on even when difficulties arise. Sometimes though, your goals remain unreachable despite your best efforts and countless struggles. Failures should not be feared because mistakes offer many opportunities for growth and learning. However, if defeats and disappointments start to dominate your life, then it is probably time to start asking yourself why it keeps on happening.

One simple way to achieve your dreams is by emulating the behaviors of successful people that you admire. By observing their ways, you may see the commendable habits and mindsets that set them apart from the rest. Take time to stop a while and examine if your own actions and thinking differ from those of the achievers. Chances are, you may be guilty of the following:

Setting Unrealistic Expectations

The most successful people have a clear perception of what they want to achieve and how to do it; allowing them to set targets that are not too low or too ambitious. Achievers build a path to success and minimize the risk of failures by devoting time to planning and researching prior to goal-setting. On the contrary, those who often fail probably miscalculate the potential of reaching a goal because they ignore the need to invest time into studying their strategies before the actual venture.

Dwelling on Self-Pity and Self-Doubt

Mistakes are an essential part of any learning process so everyone will likely experience a downfall at some point. Strong people acknowledge their emotions by allowing themselves to feel bitter after a loss but they do not dwell on the negative emotions for too long. They do not allow failures to destroy their focus and crush their confidence as well. Instead, they see it as an opportunity to prove to everyone that they can rise above the challenges.

Expecting Things To Be Easy

Achievers know that all great things are worth the wait and effort so the moment they set their eyes on a dream, they also start to prepare for grueling and backbreaking work. If you want success, being hardworking and patient will surely help you reach your targets.

Keep On Making Excuses

Immature people choose to deal with failures by pointing the blame to various factors except themselves. Instead of owning up their wrong moves, they try to heal their wounded egos by making excuses to cover up their shortcomings. This practice is surely a no-no if you want to achieve anything great in life. Stop thinking that you are a victim of realities surrounding you. Instead, learn to be flexible and adjust to realities that are sometimes uncontrollable or unavoidable.

Do Not Take Risks

Successful men and women avoid failures by exercising caution. Nevertheless, it does not mean that they do not have the courage to explore uncharted territories. If you do not have the courage to take risks, you will find it hard to stay competitive and will likely succumb to mediocrity.

Stops After Achieving Success

Success is a continuous journey so it is wrong to stop aiming for more excellence after meeting targets. Highly-successful individuals take care of their accomplishments by consistently finding ways to further improve in their field. Overconfidence may encourage lax behavior that may lead to failure in the end.

There are many other possible reasons that explain why others fail while others succeed. But a quick look at the reasons above reveals the importance of having the right attitude. So work on improving your character and success may chase you everywhere you go.

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3 Keys to Maintaining a Healthy Mentorship

Like all relationships in life, a healthy mentorship requires ongoing attention and effort on both sides in order for it to remain relevant, constructive, and beneficial. Overtime, all relationships change and develop with time and circumstance, and it takes extra effort to make sure the relationship stays healthy. When it comes to mentorship, if the relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust and respect, the changing dynamics should come naturally. But in order for this change to occur in the most effective way possible, you must keep a few things in mind. Read on to discover 3 keys to maintaining a healthy mentorship.

Communication is a must

No relationship is ever successful without the art of communication. It is nearly impossible to reach your goals without communicating with others you depend on along the way. Share your objectives, your state of mind, and the events in your life that affect both your objectives and state of mind. Share whatever you can with the other person to offer the most wholesome understanding of yourself and your goals,  so they can offer you the most complete and effective guidance.

Always avoid comparisons

Likely, when relationships are changing, it’s because major changes are occurring in one, if not both, of the lives of the parties involved. At times, it may seem natural to compare the other person’s experience to your own. But it’s important to avoid comparison at all costs. Instead of comparing someone else’s situation to your own, acknowledge that their experience is likely different from your own, and then explain to them what worked for you and what didn’t. In doing so, you give the other person a sense of validation, while also offering helpful information.

Understand that any relationship is fluid

Every mentorship is different, and there are valuable lessons learned through each one. So remember that there is no hard and fast rule when it comes to mentorship. Mentorship is not when one person teaches another a skill or tells them what to do. Instead, mentorship is when two people build a foundation of trust that allows them to take away valuable lessons from their interactions together. So while there maybe a defined mentor and mentee, this does not mean there are set rules to follow. Learn from each other whenever possible and embrace the fluidity of mentorship.

Remember these three keys to maintaining a healthy mentorship, and watch the relationship you have built thrive.

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3 Easy Tips to Invest in Yourself

Whether it’s making sure you drink enough water throughout the day or taking the time to learn a new skill, consistently investing in yourself is one of the best ways to ensure productivity when it comes to your business. Think about it. The more time and effort you take to better yourself as a person, whether it’s personally or professionally, the more prepared you will be tackle each day. Investing in yourself and your talents sends a message to the world that you are aware of your own potential, and you are willing to put in whatever it takes to see results. Check out these three easy tips to invest in yourself, so you can make the most of yourself and your productivity.

3 Easy Tips to Invest in Yourself

Set attainable goals

The first step to investing in yourself is taking the time to know yourself and your limits. Putting effort into outlining your goals makes it so much easier to achieve them. Be honest with yourself and make a game plan. Don’t over-commit yourself to attending lunch and learns once a week when your business is just starting to take off. However, if you find yourself running through a bit of an inspirational dry spell, by all means take the time to attend networking events and workshopping seminars to invest in your ideas and reignite your flame.  

Educate yourself

Educate yourself as much and as often as you can. Learn about what others are doing in your specialized field by reading informational books or staying connected with online groups. Learn your strengths and your weaknesses and work on both. For example, if you are great at communicating, keep up to date with the latest news in the world of communication. Find a trusted mentor to coach you through your weaknesses and learn from their advice. Do whatever you can to be informed all the time.

Don’t wait

The biggest mistake people always make in reaching their full potential is waiting around for the “right” time to invest in themselves. It is always the perfect time to work on yourself and your goals. Make a rule to stop making excuses, so you don’t store your fuel for later. Now’s as good a time as any to achieve your dreams.

Invest in yourself a little bit today, so you can make the most of your future. Follow these easy three easy tips to make it happen!

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How Do You Become a Better Listener Overnight?

As a wise man once said, “Nature has given men one tongue but two ears, that we may hear from others twice as much as we speak.” Even still, listening is a difficult skill. More often than not, we find ourselves listening to respond, rather than listening to learn. Don’t worry if that sounds like something you’re guilty of.

It’s never too late to learn how to be a better listener overnight.

Remember to Maintain Eye Contact

Above all else, maintaining eye contact lets the person you’re speaking with know that you’re listening. But that isn’t all that it does. When you maintain eye contact, you are more actively involved with the conversation by default. It’s hard to be disengaged when you’re making a concerted effort to keep your eyes focused on the person you’re talking to.

It may feel uncomfortable or awkward at first, but it’s ultimately one of the most important communication skills that you can develop throughout your life and career.

Limit Distractions as Much as Possible

It’s far easier to maintain eye contact and be a better, more active listener when you limit distractions as much as possible. Put down the smartphone. Forget about the clock. In those moments when you’re trying to be a present listener, just focus on being present.

To become a better listener overnight, start by limiting as many distractions as you possibly can.

Ask Questions to Dive Deeper

By far, the best thing you can do to become a better listener overnight is to simply ask questions. Dive deeper into the conversation and make it all about the person you’re speaking with.

One of the worst things you can do when you’re trying to be a better listener is to assume you know the answers to the questions you’re asking. Don’t try to be a mind-reader; just allow the person you’re in conversation with to lead and answer freely.

In the end, being a better listener just takes patience, concentration, and a willingness to tap into your natural sense of empathy. Be the person you wish would listen to you, and center all of your conversations around the idea that you’re there to learn from others. Ultimately, this practice will make you not only a better listener, but also a better person all around.

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Surprising Keys to Being a Successful Mentor

No one is a successful mentor right out of the gate. Like anything else worth doing, being a successful mentor takes time, dedication, and sticktoitiveness. It also takes a little know-how, which is why it’s important to read up on all of the keys to being a successful mentor.

Some of the keys might surprise you. If you’ve never mentored anyone before (and even if you have), they might even go against your natural instincts as a leader. Regardless, these keys to success are tried and true methods for fostering and growing a deeply impactful mentor-mentee relationship.

Share Your Failures as Much as Your Successes

It’s always uncomfortable to talk about failure, and it’s especially counterintuitive when you’re a mentor. But, if you want to be the best mentor you can possibly be, you have to push past that awkwardness.

Think about all of the most influential people in your life. Were they perfect? Probably not by any stretch of the imagination. Even still, they were great mentors—not because they were flawless, but because they did amazing things in spite of their fallibility.

Letting your mentor in on your failures will help them to better see themselves in your successes.

Understand Where Your Mentee is Coming From

…And where they want to go.

One of the most important tasks that mentors take on is meeting their mentees where they are. If you can’t understand their perspective, then you won’t be able to help them shift it to see new possibilities.

To be the best mentor, you have to understand where your mentee is coming from—as well as where they see themselves heading over the next two to five years. You wouldn’t plan a road trip without knowing what Point A and Point B are, so then why would you enter into a mentorship situation without having a similar plan and understanding?

Listen to Learn

In order to get to that point of understanding, though, you need to listen. Unfortunately, most people listen to respond, instead of listening to learn.

As a mentor, you have to be willing and able to listen to your mentee and really hear them. Try as hard as you can not to filter their words through your own experience—and who knows? Maybe you’ll learn a thing or two from them about life.

Again, the most successful mentors are those that aren’t afraid to expose their failures, understand where their mentees are coming from, and listen to gain that understanding.

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