Parenting: 5 Ways to Support Your Child During Life’s Tough Transitions

“In any given moment we have two options:
to step forward into growth or step back into safety.” 
-Abraham Maslow

Change is tough. Even for the strongest of adults, life’s transitions can be extremely stressful and anxiety-inducing. For children, those same changes can be devastating. If you are working through any big change, such as a move, the loss of a family member or a divorce, try using these five methods to support your child during the transition.

  1. Communicate What’s to Come

Your child is probably feeling uneasy and uncertain, wondering how to move forward. As the adult in this situation, you may have more knowledge of what the future will look like. So, it’s your responsibility to reassure your little one that everything will be ok. While it’s not necessary to share more information than your child can maturely process, you can explain how certain changes will affect your family by giving concrete examples of how things will be different.

  1. Provide a Source of Routine

Children find comfort in routine. It helps manage expectations, allowing children to feel secure and safe to let their guard down. Consequently, when a major change rocks one part of their world, everything else should remain as consistent as possible. Even if you are in a new location, with different people, try to recreate positive traditions from home. Morning and bedtime routines are two great occasions that many children rely on. If your family held a weekly game night or always saw a movie over the weekend, try to keep those staples in tact. 

  1. Provide an Outlet

Everyone needs a place to escape, whether it be physical or mental. Your child may be experiencing a lot of negative emotions that are in dire need of balance. Make a list of fun things your child enjoys and form a habit of bringing those hobbies to life. Even if your child is not in the mood to have fun, you can provide an alternative outlet for those by seeking a child therapist who can approach the matter professionally.

  1. Check on Your Child’s Emotional Well-Being

Don’t be afraid to ask your child how they are feeling. While hearing the answer may hurt, your little one needs to be able to be open and honest in a safe space. You understand better that anyone exactly what your child is going through and you can provide the emotional support that they need. Also keep in mind, it’s normal if your child isn’t ready to talk or doesn’t know how to articulate their feelings. In those moments, simply reiterate that you are there to listen, whenever they feel ready.

  1. Be Patient with Setbacks

The process of adapting to life changes can be a roller coaster ride, full of ups and downs. The journey isn’t always linear. Know there will be days where you feel the months of progress made only resulted in needing to start back at square one. If you become frustrated or overwhelmed with the setbacks, take a few moments to collect yourself and renew your patience. Though the journey may be long, it will end is a better place than it started.

Sometimes we find our children wrapped up in the middle of adult issues before they have the tools to cope with them. Change and transition can usher in complex emotions that neither of you predicted. However, with these five supportive tips, you and your little one will start to see the sun emerge from behind the clouds. And remember, a little love and patience goes a long way.

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3 Things You Can Do Today To Get Closer To Your Goals

Are you tired of waiting for your dreams and goals to manifest? Do you feel that success remains elusive in spite of all your hard work and effort? We know that great things are worth the wait but sometimes, you can’t help but wish that you could somehow speed things up. If you can relate to the above statements, you may be thrilled to know that there are easy things you can do to achieve your goals in a shorter time. You can even start doing them today. Try doing the following suggestions and expect amazing results.

Write down your goals.

It is hard to determine the things you want to accomplish if you don’t even know your targets. Take time to think about your goals and take the first step by writing it it all down. This simple practice can serve as a powerful reminder that you have goals to meet. Moreover, writing down your goals has a scientific basis. .A study done by psychology professor, Dr. Gail Matthews proved that participants reported a 42% chance of success when they wrote down their goals. When you keep your goals inside your mind, they get stuck in the imaginative part of your brain. However, once you write it down, the goals get transferred into the left hemisphere which dictates logic and action.

Craft a vision board.

Another way to make your journey towards success shorter is by believing in the power of visualization. This concept is featured in the popular book by Rhonda Byrne, The Secret. It states that imagining reaping the success you want will help your dreams to manifest in your life. The power of visualization has been endorsed by notable personalities such as Oprah Winfrey and Arnold Schwarzenegger.

To do this, you need to create a collage of pictures and words that represents your dreams and aspirations. Paste the collage of your goals in a board and place it where you can often see it. According to the law of attraction from the bestselling book by Byrne, visualizing the realization of your dreams allow you to release a positive force into the universe. The universe will then present you opportunities to get you closer to your dreams. To enhance success of your vision board you can meditate and state affirmative sentences.

Find a mentor.

To fast-track your goals, it will be extremely helpful to know the fastest route as well as the traps to avoid along the road. To gain access to this information you need someone who knows the route by heart. Someone who has been there and done that. In other words, a mentor may play a huge role in your success. Mentors can share their expertise and wisdom, and guide you every step of the way. Not everyone may need a mentor but having one definitely gives you an edge over others.

There is no magic trick to guarantee instant success. And true enough, most of the things you want to achieve in life take time and patience. The suggestions above are relatively easy to do but will work best if you combine it with the right attitude to work hard and excel.

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Foolproof Your Way To Success By Breaking These Habits & Mindsets

The vision of triumph gives many of us the strength to go on even when difficulties arise. Sometimes though, your goals remain unreachable despite your best efforts and countless struggles. Failures should not be feared because mistakes offer many opportunities for growth and learning. However, if defeats and disappointments start to dominate your life, then it is probably time to start asking yourself why it keeps on happening.

One simple way to achieve your dreams is by emulating the behaviors of successful people that you admire. By observing their ways, you may see the commendable habits and mindsets that set them apart from the rest. Take time to stop a while and examine if your own actions and thinking differ from those of the achievers. Chances are, you may be guilty of the following:

Setting Unrealistic Expectations

The most successful people have a clear perception of what they want to achieve and how to do it; allowing them to set targets that are not too low or too ambitious. Achievers build a path to success and minimize the risk of failures by devoting time to planning and researching prior to goal-setting. On the contrary, those who often fail probably miscalculate the potential of reaching a goal because they ignore the need to invest time into studying their strategies before the actual venture.

Dwelling on Self-Pity and Self-Doubt

Mistakes are an essential part of any learning process so everyone will likely experience a downfall at some point. Strong people acknowledge their emotions by allowing themselves to feel bitter after a loss but they do not dwell on the negative emotions for too long. They do not allow failures to destroy their focus and crush their confidence as well. Instead, they see it as an opportunity to prove to everyone that they can rise above the challenges.

Expecting Things To Be Easy

Achievers know that all great things are worth the wait and effort so the moment they set their eyes on a dream, they also start to prepare for grueling and backbreaking work. If you want success, being hardworking and patient will surely help you reach your targets.

Keep On Making Excuses

Immature people choose to deal with failures by pointing the blame to various factors except themselves. Instead of owning up their wrong moves, they try to heal their wounded egos by making excuses to cover up their shortcomings. This practice is surely a no-no if you want to achieve anything great in life. Stop thinking that you are a victim of realities surrounding you. Instead, learn to be flexible and adjust to realities that are sometimes uncontrollable or unavoidable.

Do Not Take Risks

Successful men and women avoid failures by exercising caution. Nevertheless, it does not mean that they do not have the courage to explore uncharted territories. If you do not have the courage to take risks, you will find it hard to stay competitive and will likely succumb to mediocrity.

Stops After Achieving Success

Success is a continuous journey so it is wrong to stop aiming for more excellence after meeting targets. Highly-successful individuals take care of their accomplishments by consistently finding ways to further improve in their field. Overconfidence may encourage lax behavior that may lead to failure in the end.

There are many other possible reasons that explain why others fail while others succeed. But a quick look at the reasons above reveals the importance of having the right attitude. So work on improving your character and success may chase you everywhere you go.

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3 Keys to Maintaining a Healthy Mentorship

Like all relationships in life, a healthy mentorship requires ongoing attention and effort on both sides in order for it to remain relevant, constructive, and beneficial. Overtime, all relationships change and develop with time and circumstance, and it takes extra effort to make sure the relationship stays healthy. When it comes to mentorship, if the relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust and respect, the changing dynamics should come naturally. But in order for this change to occur in the most effective way possible, you must keep a few things in mind. Read on to discover 3 keys to maintaining a healthy mentorship.

Communication is a must

No relationship is ever successful without the art of communication. It is nearly impossible to reach your goals without communicating with others you depend on along the way. Share your objectives, your state of mind, and the events in your life that affect both your objectives and state of mind. Share whatever you can with the other person to offer the most wholesome understanding of yourself and your goals,  so they can offer you the most complete and effective guidance.

Always avoid comparisons

Likely, when relationships are changing, it’s because major changes are occurring in one, if not both, of the lives of the parties involved. At times, it may seem natural to compare the other person’s experience to your own. But it’s important to avoid comparison at all costs. Instead of comparing someone else’s situation to your own, acknowledge that their experience is likely different from your own, and then explain to them what worked for you and what didn’t. In doing so, you give the other person a sense of validation, while also offering helpful information.

Understand that any relationship is fluid

Every mentorship is different, and there are valuable lessons learned through each one. So remember that there is no hard and fast rule when it comes to mentorship. Mentorship is not when one person teaches another a skill or tells them what to do. Instead, mentorship is when two people build a foundation of trust that allows them to take away valuable lessons from their interactions together. So while there maybe a defined mentor and mentee, this does not mean there are set rules to follow. Learn from each other whenever possible and embrace the fluidity of mentorship.

Remember these three keys to maintaining a healthy mentorship, and watch the relationship you have built thrive.

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