Gain Courage To Free Yourself From Bad Habits: Try These Simple Hacks

You are probably one of the many who starts the year by creating a list of resolutions. You wish and hope for a better year ahead by making a firm decision to break some of your bad habits. These are the habits that keep you from getting that much-needed promotion, from achieving your dream figure, or from getting that much-coveted position.

But we all are aware of the reality that resolutions are likely to be broken. Sometimes, no matter how many self-help books you read or motivational audios you listen, breaking a bad habit is simply hard. Many falls to the lure of succumbing to old toxic ways all too quickly. Sometimes quitting or abandoning your resolutions appear to be the sweeter and easier route to take. But remember the saying that ‘no pain, no gain.’ So before giving up, you may first want to try the simple hacks below:

Recognize the bad behaviors

Bad habits are likely things that you enjoy doing so it may be hard for you to realize how these behaviors are jeopardizing your life. However, the first step in changing a certain behavior is realizing and accepting that you need to let it go because they do more harm than good.

Take small but steady steps

Once you identified the bad habits that are stunting your growth as an individual, it is time to take action! To make the process easier, it is better to take small steps by making slow changes in your habits. For example, If you want to start eating healthier, you may start by reducing soda intake in your diet on your first week. Then for week 2, you may start limiting fatty foods as well. As you go on setting and sticking to small goals, you make the process a lot more doable. At the same time, your confidence to commit to a goal will increase. By taking small but consistent steps, you may one day realize that you have completely erased the bad habit from your lifestyle.

Make a room for failure

Breaking a bad habit is like hitting a high, hard wall so the worst thing you can do is to expect the transition from bad habits to good ones to be easy. You are likely to lose motivation or fail at some point and it is perfectly normal. When you notice your willpower to start a good habit waning, remind yourself that what matters is you do not give up. By making realistic goals, you increase chances of success.

Mind your choice of words

Research has proven that the power of self-affirmation and word-choice will help you say goodbye to old and harmful habits permanently. A 2011 study published by the Journal of Consumer Research reveals the difference of uttering “I don’t” and “I can’t” statements when conditioning good habits. In the said research, one group was asked to use “I don’t “statements while another group used “I can’t” statements to avoid temptations. The study concludes that 8 out of 10 people in the group that used “I don’t” manages to successfully stick to their goals.

Form a support team

Who says you have to do it all by yourself? You can seek the help of the people around you as you try to eliminate a bad habit out of your system. Their support and encouragement may just provide the boost you need to hold on to that resolution.

You probably heard the saying “man is a creature of habit”. The quote emphasizes the importance of fostering good habits in having a more rewarding existence. So do all you can to break free from bad habits to move forward in life and to achieve your full potential.

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Foolproof Your Way To Success By Breaking These Habits & Mindsets

The vision of triumph gives many of us the strength to go on even when difficulties arise. Sometimes though, your goals remain unreachable despite your best efforts and countless struggles. Failures should not be feared because mistakes offer many opportunities for growth and learning. However, if defeats and disappointments start to dominate your life, then it is probably time to start asking yourself why it keeps on happening.

One simple way to achieve your dreams is by emulating the behaviors of successful people that you admire. By observing their ways, you may see the commendable habits and mindsets that set them apart from the rest. Take time to stop a while and examine if your own actions and thinking differ from those of the achievers. Chances are, you may be guilty of the following:

Setting Unrealistic Expectations

The most successful people have a clear perception of what they want to achieve and how to do it; allowing them to set targets that are not too low or too ambitious. Achievers build a path to success and minimize the risk of failures by devoting time to planning and researching prior to goal-setting. On the contrary, those who often fail probably miscalculate the potential of reaching a goal because they ignore the need to invest time into studying their strategies before the actual venture.

Dwelling on Self-Pity and Self-Doubt

Mistakes are an essential part of any learning process so everyone will likely experience a downfall at some point. Strong people acknowledge their emotions by allowing themselves to feel bitter after a loss but they do not dwell on the negative emotions for too long. They do not allow failures to destroy their focus and crush their confidence as well. Instead, they see it as an opportunity to prove to everyone that they can rise above the challenges.

Expecting Things To Be Easy

Achievers know that all great things are worth the wait and effort so the moment they set their eyes on a dream, they also start to prepare for grueling and backbreaking work. If you want success, being hardworking and patient will surely help you reach your targets.

Keep On Making Excuses

Immature people choose to deal with failures by pointing the blame to various factors except themselves. Instead of owning up their wrong moves, they try to heal their wounded egos by making excuses to cover up their shortcomings. This practice is surely a no-no if you want to achieve anything great in life. Stop thinking that you are a victim of realities surrounding you. Instead, learn to be flexible and adjust to realities that are sometimes uncontrollable or unavoidable.

Do Not Take Risks

Successful men and women avoid failures by exercising caution. Nevertheless, it does not mean that they do not have the courage to explore uncharted territories. If you do not have the courage to take risks, you will find it hard to stay competitive and will likely succumb to mediocrity.

Stops After Achieving Success

Success is a continuous journey so it is wrong to stop aiming for more excellence after meeting targets. Highly-successful individuals take care of their accomplishments by consistently finding ways to further improve in their field. Overconfidence may encourage lax behavior that may lead to failure in the end.

There are many other possible reasons that explain why others fail while others succeed. But a quick look at the reasons above reveals the importance of having the right attitude. So work on improving your character and success may chase you everywhere you go.

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3 Small Joys Every Parent Knows Well

There’s no doubt about it: being a parent is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. Conversely, it’s also one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. When you’re a parent, you’re basically a superhero (even if your cape is actually just your kid draping himself around your neck). So, what are the rewards for all of the extraordinary feats that parents accomplish?

They’re simple and beautiful: they’re the small joys every parent knows well.

When You See Glimpses of Your Parents in Your Kids

It’s easy to see all the ways that your kids look just like you and your spouse. From the moment they’re born, you begin to marvel at the way they have your husband’s nose or your own eyes.

But one of the most wonderful small joys in life comes when you see glimpses of your parents in your kids. It’s not just in the way they look, the way their smile reminds you of your father, or the way their curls fall just like your mother’s. It’s in the way they exhibit the same kindness of spirit that your parents showed you when you were little. It’s in the way that they’re thoughtful and patient just like their grandmother.

There are thousands of glimpses like this over a lifetime. Don’t miss out on them. Pay attention to all of the little things about your kids, and you’ll be rewarded by the incredible continuing nature and beauty of humanity.

When Your Kids Seem to Know You Better Than You Know Yourself

Kids are some of the most observant people you’ll ever encounter. They’re always listening, always looking, always taking the world in. Bit by bit, they begin to paint a vivid picture for themselves of who you are as a parent to them. The picture is fuzzy at first, but in time, it becomes as clear as day.

You’ll know that they have you figured out in the most jaw-dropping ways. One day, you’ll slip up and forget what you were saying or doing—and your kids will step in and fill in the blanks for you. Take that small joy for what it is: a tiny miracle.

Your kids are always looking up to you, and in those moments, they’re truly looking out for you.

When You Realize that Your Kids Don’t Need Help Doing [Insert Here]

This realization is a mixed blessing. If we all could, we’d keep our kids young, free, and safe forever. But, sadly, that’s not how time—or life—works. Time marches on, and life opens all kids up to less-than-pleasant possibilities.

If you’ve done your job as a parent well, though, this won’t matter quite so much. Your kids will be prepared to face any of the challenges life throws at them. That’s why it’s so important to recognize all of the moments when your kids don’t need help doing [insert task here, whatever that task may be: cutting their meat, riding a bike, writing a letter, getting a job; the list goes on].

That list doesn’t go on forever, unfortunately. There will come a day when you witness the last small joy of parenthood: when your kids become parents themselves. Luckily, all that means is that you get to start reliving those joys as a grandparent.

That’s the beauty of life: the small joys are endless.

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Surprising Keys to Being a Successful Mentor

No one is a successful mentor right out of the gate. Like anything else worth doing, being a successful mentor takes time, dedication, and sticktoitiveness. It also takes a little know-how, which is why it’s important to read up on all of the keys to being a successful mentor.

Some of the keys might surprise you. If you’ve never mentored anyone before (and even if you have), they might even go against your natural instincts as a leader. Regardless, these keys to success are tried and true methods for fostering and growing a deeply impactful mentor-mentee relationship.

Share Your Failures as Much as Your Successes

It’s always uncomfortable to talk about failure, and it’s especially counterintuitive when you’re a mentor. But, if you want to be the best mentor you can possibly be, you have to push past that awkwardness.

Think about all of the most influential people in your life. Were they perfect? Probably not by any stretch of the imagination. Even still, they were great mentors—not because they were flawless, but because they did amazing things in spite of their fallibility.

Letting your mentor in on your failures will help them to better see themselves in your successes.

Understand Where Your Mentee is Coming From

…And where they want to go.

One of the most important tasks that mentors take on is meeting their mentees where they are. If you can’t understand their perspective, then you won’t be able to help them shift it to see new possibilities.

To be the best mentor, you have to understand where your mentee is coming from—as well as where they see themselves heading over the next two to five years. You wouldn’t plan a road trip without knowing what Point A and Point B are, so then why would you enter into a mentorship situation without having a similar plan and understanding?

Listen to Learn

In order to get to that point of understanding, though, you need to listen. Unfortunately, most people listen to respond, instead of listening to learn.

As a mentor, you have to be willing and able to listen to your mentee and really hear them. Try as hard as you can not to filter their words through your own experience—and who knows? Maybe you’ll learn a thing or two from them about life.

Again, the most successful mentors are those that aren’t afraid to expose their failures, understand where their mentees are coming from, and listen to gain that understanding.

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