Gain Courage To Free Yourself From Bad Habits: Try These Simple Hacks

You are probably one of the many who starts the year by creating a list of resolutions. You wish and hope for a better year ahead by making a firm decision to break some of your bad habits. These are the habits that keep you from getting that much-needed promotion, from achieving your dream figure, or from getting that much-coveted position.

But we all are aware of the reality that resolutions are likely to be broken. Sometimes, no matter how many self-help books you read or motivational audios you listen, breaking a bad habit is simply hard. Many falls to the lure of succumbing to old toxic ways all too quickly. Sometimes quitting or abandoning your resolutions appear to be the sweeter and easier route to take. But remember the saying that ‘no pain, no gain.’ So before giving up, you may first want to try the simple hacks below:

Recognize the bad behaviors

Bad habits are likely things that you enjoy doing so it may be hard for you to realize how these behaviors are jeopardizing your life. However, the first step in changing a certain behavior is realizing and accepting that you need to let it go because they do more harm than good.

Take small but steady steps

Once you identified the bad habits that are stunting your growth as an individual, it is time to take action! To make the process easier, it is better to take small steps by making slow changes in your habits. For example, If you want to start eating healthier, you may start by reducing soda intake in your diet on your first week. Then for week 2, you may start limiting fatty foods as well. As you go on setting and sticking to small goals, you make the process a lot more doable. At the same time, your confidence to commit to a goal will increase. By taking small but consistent steps, you may one day realize that you have completely erased the bad habit from your lifestyle.

Make a room for failure

Breaking a bad habit is like hitting a high, hard wall so the worst thing you can do is to expect the transition from bad habits to good ones to be easy. You are likely to lose motivation or fail at some point and it is perfectly normal. When you notice your willpower to start a good habit waning, remind yourself that what matters is you do not give up. By making realistic goals, you increase chances of success.

Mind your choice of words

Research has proven that the power of self-affirmation and word-choice will help you say goodbye to old and harmful habits permanently. A 2011 study published by the Journal of Consumer Research reveals the difference of uttering “I don’t” and “I can’t” statements when conditioning good habits. In the said research, one group was asked to use “I don’t “statements while another group used “I can’t” statements to avoid temptations. The study concludes that 8 out of 10 people in the group that used “I don’t” manages to successfully stick to their goals.

Form a support team

Who says you have to do it all by yourself? You can seek the help of the people around you as you try to eliminate a bad habit out of your system. Their support and encouragement may just provide the boost you need to hold on to that resolution.

You probably heard the saying “man is a creature of habit”. The quote emphasizes the importance of fostering good habits in having a more rewarding existence. So do all you can to break free from bad habits to move forward in life and to achieve your full potential.

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How to Take Back Your Time

In recent years, society has gotten the idea that overworking, jam-packed schedules, and zero work-life balance should be the norm and acceptable. However, many studies actually challenge that notion and suggest that a lifestyle revolving around those habits can negatively affect our health, families, relationships, communities, and even your work performance. The truth is, the most beneficial and successful lifestyle is all about an effective work-life balance. If you fall into the overworked category, don’t worry, you are not alone. It is time to take back your time, your freedom and regain control of your life instead of allowing your calendar to control you.

Here are five steps to take back your time.

Work Smarter, Not Harder

Taking control of your time begins with effective time management. Start by evaluating your current performance and activity. Are you accomplishing everything you want or need to be doing every day? Are your days busy with activity, or are you productive with your activity? There is a difference. Those who are productive are the ones who get things done and have control of their time each day. To maximize your daily productivity, begin with prioritizing what is urgent from what is important, then schedule yourself a window of time to get the urgent tasks done. If you do that and maintain a positive mindset about what you can get accomplished, you will take back your time within the workday with ease.

Be Mindful of How You Spend Down Time

Everyone needs downtime to just veg, some like it more than others. But, a positive work-life balance does not mean working from 9 am to 6 pm and then laying on the couch from 6 pm to bedtime. Instead, make a game plan for your time after you are done with the workday. Clearly identify two to three things that you want to get accomplished once you are home. This can include a productive task like cleaning the kitchen or a relaxing one such as enjoying a glass of wine with your spouse. If your post-work game plan does include a break or down time on the couch, set a time limit for yourself and stick to it. The key is to avoid wasting time, and instead spend it on personal tasks that will help to better your peace of mind.

Overhaul Your Time-Sucking Habits

E-mail, the telephone, social media, text messages, surfing the web, all of these actions can take over and consume all of our time. It is important to manage these time-sucking habits in order to effectively manage your daily schedule and time. Many of us begin each work-day with one of the time-suckers. Instead of getting caught up in a mess of emails, or lost in voicemails, start your day by accomplishing a task. If you can do this, you will do more than most people do during an entire day. Emails and messages, etc. are still important to take care of, just not first thing. Schedule yourself 2-3 windows dedicated solely to responding to emails or follow up phone calls. Respond with direct, and clear communication in order to decrease unnecessary follow-ups and time spent on more emails. When at home, we fall victim to different time-suckers like social media and text messages. Instead of spending your evenings with your cell phone, unplug from the digital world, and enjoy the company of your family or doing something for yourself.

Learn to Say No

One of the hardest things for many people to do is to say no to something. However, it is also one of the most important skills to be able to do. If you are in control of your time, then you know what is on your plate and how much more you can take on. By accepting new projects and responsivities when your list is already full it will only set you back even further. Be honest with how much you can take on, and say no when you need to. If you decide to decline, do so in a direct, polite, and prompt manner. By avoiding over-commitment, it allows you to be productive, get things accomplished and manage your time both in and out of work.

Take Time for You

In order to get your freedom back, it is suggested that the way we should spend our time is for productive work, and the enjoyment of life. Work-life balance isn’t fully balanced without doing the things you want to do. From meditation, to shopping, or being active outside, taking time for YOU is a critical piece of the puzzle. You-time can be scheduled over the weekend or evening and can also span multiple days by taking that much-needed vacation you’ve been thinking about. Studies actually show that vacations decrease the likelihood of heart attacks and depression in both men and women. Regardless of your length of time or activity, you-time is important to get your mindset right, and to even out the stresses that come with daily work.

Taking back your time is vital for both professional and personal success. It is also a gradual process that doesn’t just happen overnight. With the commitment to regaining that control and balance in your life and being consistent in your actions, you can reach the ultimate lifestyle.

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3 Things to Do to Give Your Life More Meaning

It’s that time of year again to make your resolutions––to promise yourself that you will do whatever it takes to become a better version of yourself. And there is nothing wrong with setting goals and raising your standards for yourself. In fact, it’s one of the best things you can do to become the best person you can be. But instead of committing yourself to a lofty resolution that will fizzle out before mid-march, make this year the year you decide to live your life with a clearer direction and a purpose behind everything you do. Here are 3 things you should do to give your life more meaning.

Surround yourself with good people

First and foremost, populate your life with good examples, positive influences, and people who remind you of what your passions are. It’s been said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so why not spend time with people who make you the best version of yourself? In doing so, you will share similar passions, dreams, and life visions with the people in your life, and you

Do what you love

Make sure you spend the next 12 months, and all of the months after that, devoted solely to pursuing whatever it is that makes you come alive. The best way to improve the world is to chase after whatever you’re passionate about. Love sports? Find a way to unite a community through a ball game. Love animals? Bring people together to help the animals in your area. Love kids? Give a voice and empower the children that need to be heard. Whatever you do, find meaning in every moment and fill your life with moments that remind you of the sweetness of life.

Follow your dreams

Most importantly, make this year the year you chase after your dreams fearlessly and relentlessly––because that’s really the only way to make them come true after all. Stop putting your dreams on the back burner and make them a priority every single day. Keep the vision for your life alive by making your dreams become your reality.

A meaningful life is a life well-lived. Follow these 3 steps to make sure 2018 is the year you give your life more meaning.

 

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7 Things Every Healthy Marriage Needs

Marriage is one of the sweetest things in life. But it’s not always butterfly stomachs and love songs. Marriage can be difficult and trying at times. It takes a strong marriage and boundless love to survive the tough moments to make it all worthwhile. Here are 7 things every healthy and happy marriage needs.

Friendship

First and foremost, your spouse should be your partner in crime, your teammate, and your best friend. Couples that have a strong friendship are connected deeper on an emotional level, and this friendship becomes the core of the marriage. In fact, the strongest marriages are those built on a foundation of friendship.

Selfless sacrifice

With marriage, comes sacrifice. It’s just the way life works. The key to a healthy marriage is to make these sacrifices without expectation of these them being returned. That is true love.

Stellar Communication

Without communication, any marriage is doomed for failure. Make sure you and your spouse have a healthy and effective system of communication, so the two of you can feel supported and comfortable when discussing the small and the big things in life.

Tiny Gestures

Strong and healthy couples know from experience that small acts of kindness go a long way. Anything from making your spouse a cup of coffee in the morning to leaving notes on the bathroom mirror are the kind of small gestures that start mean a whole lot.

Freedom

Although marriage heavily depends on how the two of you work together and love one another, a healthy marriage also allows the freedom for you to be your own person and supports your pursuit to chase your own dreams.

Mutual Respect

Mutual respect of each other’s time, wants, and dreams is necessary if you want your marriage to grow and thrive. It’s important to respect the other person in every way at all times to build a solid foundation of trust and support.

Good Memories

What would a happy and healthy marriage be without good memories to share, laugh about, and reminisce on later? The happiest couples know that the best part of marriage is getting the chance to do life together.

So maybe marriage isn’t smooth-sailing 100% of the time, but if you work on incorporating more of these 7 things into your marriage, you can be confident that your marriage will be the happiest, healthiest, and strongest it has ever been.

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Fundamental Truths About Financial Freedom

Financial freedom may seem like a nebulous concept for most people. It feels way too far away from reality to be feasibly attainable. It’s a dream that gets packed away in the closet when the bills come due each month. Whenever you feel hopeful, you pull it out and dust it off, examining the possibilities for your future that it holds. Sensing that it takes time and effort to open the box and unleash those possibilities, you gently cover it back up and store it in the linen closet once again.

The next time you feel the urge to uncover the dream of financial freedom, don’t hesitate to open that box, knowing that you’ll be armed with the most fundamental truths about money and financial freedom.

Money Cannot Buy You Happiness

It’s a well-renowned idea that abstract concepts, like love and happiness, can’t be bought with money. While it’s true that the things you can buy with money can engender feelings of joy and affection, the truest happiness and love come from immaterial pursuits.

Money cannot buy you happiness. Money cannot buy you love. But, money can buy you something better, something that can foster the growth of those two ideals. Financial freedom can buy you time: the most precious resource on the planet. Once it’s used up, it’s gone forever, and it keeps ticking by, no matter how hard you wish it wouldn’t. Having enough money not to have to trade your hours for dollars allows you to spend time with your loved ones. Financial freedom allows you to determine your own happiness and to devote your resources to loving everyone around you more intentionally.

Money is Not the Root of All Evil

To be clear, this is an often misquoted Bible verse. It’s 1 Timothy 6:10, and it doesn’t say, “Money is the root of all evil.” Instead, it specifies that the “…love of money is root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.”

In the end, money is not the root of any evils. It is only when people are overcome by greed or feel an intense need for money that evil arises. That love of money causes people to lie, cheat, steal, and more just in the pursuit of that peace of mind that comes with having money.

When you’re comfortable in your financial freedom, you don’t love money. You enjoy what it can do for you, but you’re not clamoring for it. There’s no need to resort to evil to attain it. Now, that’s true peace of mind.

Money Won’t Set You Free

Simply having money won’t set you free. Financial freedom is about more than just having loads of cash stashed away. It’s a mindset that allows you not to worry about having to grind day in and day out to maintain your lifestyle.

Money can’t and won’t set you free. Only you can set yourself free.

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