Parenting: 5 Ways to Support Your Child During Life’s Tough Transitions

“In any given moment we have two options:
to step forward into growth or step back into safety.” 
-Abraham Maslow

Change is tough. Even for the strongest of adults, life’s transitions can be extremely stressful and anxiety-inducing. For children, those same changes can be devastating. If you are working through any big change, such as a move, the loss of a family member or a divorce, try using these five methods to support your child during the transition.

  1. Communicate What’s to Come

Your child is probably feeling uneasy and uncertain, wondering how to move forward. As the adult in this situation, you may have more knowledge of what the future will look like. So, it’s your responsibility to reassure your little one that everything will be ok. While it’s not necessary to share more information than your child can maturely process, you can explain how certain changes will affect your family by giving concrete examples of how things will be different.

  1. Provide a Source of Routine

Children find comfort in routine. It helps manage expectations, allowing children to feel secure and safe to let their guard down. Consequently, when a major change rocks one part of their world, everything else should remain as consistent as possible. Even if you are in a new location, with different people, try to recreate positive traditions from home. Morning and bedtime routines are two great occasions that many children rely on. If your family held a weekly game night or always saw a movie over the weekend, try to keep those staples in tact. 

  1. Provide an Outlet

Everyone needs a place to escape, whether it be physical or mental. Your child may be experiencing a lot of negative emotions that are in dire need of balance. Make a list of fun things your child enjoys and form a habit of bringing those hobbies to life. Even if your child is not in the mood to have fun, you can provide an alternative outlet for those by seeking a child therapist who can approach the matter professionally.

  1. Check on Your Child’s Emotional Well-Being

Don’t be afraid to ask your child how they are feeling. While hearing the answer may hurt, your little one needs to be able to be open and honest in a safe space. You understand better that anyone exactly what your child is going through and you can provide the emotional support that they need. Also keep in mind, it’s normal if your child isn’t ready to talk or doesn’t know how to articulate their feelings. In those moments, simply reiterate that you are there to listen, whenever they feel ready.

  1. Be Patient with Setbacks

The process of adapting to life changes can be a roller coaster ride, full of ups and downs. The journey isn’t always linear. Know there will be days where you feel the months of progress made only resulted in needing to start back at square one. If you become frustrated or overwhelmed with the setbacks, take a few moments to collect yourself and renew your patience. Though the journey may be long, it will end is a better place than it started.

Sometimes we find our children wrapped up in the middle of adult issues before they have the tools to cope with them. Change and transition can usher in complex emotions that neither of you predicted. However, with these five supportive tips, you and your little one will start to see the sun emerge from behind the clouds. And remember, a little love and patience goes a long way.

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Three Viable Side Hustles For Stay-At-Home Parents

With the cost of living ever rising, many stay-at-home parents find themselves mulling over the idea of reentering the workforce. You may be faced with the decision of whether to rely on childcare while spending all day at work or trying to create a revenue stream you can maintain from home.

Nowadays, daycare can leave you feeling like you work forty hours per week just to hand your paycheck over to the childcare center. With that in mind, only one option seems to make sense – working from home. But where should you start? Here are three careers that make decent money while being flexible enough to become telecommuting positions.

Youtuber/Blogger

If you have a talent for writing or filmmaking, social media-based platforms may be a winning career path for you. YouTubers’ revenue stems from the ads they place before and during monetized videos, as well as from paid sponsorships and reviews. As you your subscriber count rises, so will your video’s views, which in turn increases the number of plays the video’s advertisements receive.

In short, more views means more money for you. YouTubers film content on just about any subject that you can imagine. The goal is to keep it family friendly, informative and entertaining. Product reviews, how-to videos and daily life vlogs are popular on this platform. Bloggers make money in nearly the same exact way, expect they mainly focus on writing content instead of filming it.

Childcare

If your own children haven’t worn you out, consider opening your home to other children of a similar age. Childcare is a convenient solution when you need a second income. You are already home, caring for your children and this career path allows you to build on that. In-home childcare calls for strict compliance to government welfare standards to ensure children and safe and tended to, but once you have everything set, you are free to watch the money roll in. Whether you provide all day, every day care, or only emergency, last-minute care for drop-ins, there will always be parents who need your services.

Tutor

Private tutors make anywhere from $20-$85 per hour, depending on the subject being taught. Tutoring sometimes requires preparation time to correspond with teachers and parents, create or find curriculum or to research best practices. Clients can be scheduled to meet you during your children’s nap time, or even later in the day once your spouse is home to take over.

Offering tutoring in specialized areas, such as Dyslexia or high-stakes exams, will bring in the highest level of pay since fewer people have experience in those disciplines. Fortunately, positive end-results often garner recommendations from students, parents and administrators who notice the improvements you inspire.

Thankfully, the modern job market has grown to accommodate the different styles of today’s families. Think of all your strengths and talents, and find a career that best fits what you are already good at. With a quick internet search, you’ll find an endless list of employment opportunities that will allow you to conquer parenthood and a career.

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To the Parents of a Newly Blended Family: 3 Reasons Why Your Family Rocks

Blended families sometimes get a bad rep out there. There’s advice all over the internet about how to overcome the challenges that are common in blended family life, or how to deal with the mess, complications, and exhaustion that comes with raising a blended family. But no one ever writes about how sweet it all is. Yes, raising a blended family is difficult. There are challenges to overcome every single day. But if it was easy, how would you know it was worth it?

Raising a blended family truly comes with a ton of hardships, but read on to find out the even greater joys.

There is never a dull moment

While most larger families live days full of noise, excitement, and chaos, blended families truly take this to the next level––in the most entertaining way possible. When you take two families, both with different aged kids, and put them under one roof, you’re bound for some controversy and definitely some added entertainment to everyday life. Sure, you will inevitably have to mediate arguments and tension, but when it’s all over there’s nothing to do except look back on all of the chaos with laughter and joy. Eventually all of these moments will become worth it, and your family will be closer because of it.

Your kids have more than two examples to learn from

If a blended family means one thing, it’s that everyone’s constantly learning from each other. It’s simple math, really. More family members equals more examples to watch and learn from. Your kids have the opportunity to gain other role models and influences in their life, and they will likely become much more dynamic, well-rounded, and independent men and women as a result. Not to mention, you and your spouse have the chance to experience and learn from a different family’s traditions and way of life. Essentially, establishing a blended family sets you up for a lifetime of learning from each other.

You get to establish a new blended family life together

More than anything, navigating the ups and downs of a blended family life paves the way for new family traditions and allows you to make memories together. At first, the collision of families may come as a shock with multiple breakdowns along the way. But once you’ve established rules and settle into your own version of normalcy, you have the chance to create traditions and your unique definition of family that is unlike any other. At the end of the day, you really wouldn’t have it any other way.

Among all the hardships and ruckus that is commonplace in blended families, you’ll truly find some of life’s sweetest moments––like when you overhear all of your kids laughing in another room or watching your spouse effortlessly bond with your children. That’s what makes it all worth it because, after all, nothing ventured is nothing gained.

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3 Small Joys Every Parent Knows Well

There’s no doubt about it: being a parent is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. Conversely, it’s also one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. When you’re a parent, you’re basically a superhero (even if your cape is actually just your kid draping himself around your neck). So, what are the rewards for all of the extraordinary feats that parents accomplish?

They’re simple and beautiful: they’re the small joys every parent knows well.

When You See Glimpses of Your Parents in Your Kids

It’s easy to see all the ways that your kids look just like you and your spouse. From the moment they’re born, you begin to marvel at the way they have your husband’s nose or your own eyes.

But one of the most wonderful small joys in life comes when you see glimpses of your parents in your kids. It’s not just in the way they look, the way their smile reminds you of your father, or the way their curls fall just like your mother’s. It’s in the way they exhibit the same kindness of spirit that your parents showed you when you were little. It’s in the way that they’re thoughtful and patient just like their grandmother.

There are thousands of glimpses like this over a lifetime. Don’t miss out on them. Pay attention to all of the little things about your kids, and you’ll be rewarded by the incredible continuing nature and beauty of humanity.

When Your Kids Seem to Know You Better Than You Know Yourself

Kids are some of the most observant people you’ll ever encounter. They’re always listening, always looking, always taking the world in. Bit by bit, they begin to paint a vivid picture for themselves of who you are as a parent to them. The picture is fuzzy at first, but in time, it becomes as clear as day.

You’ll know that they have you figured out in the most jaw-dropping ways. One day, you’ll slip up and forget what you were saying or doing—and your kids will step in and fill in the blanks for you. Take that small joy for what it is: a tiny miracle.

Your kids are always looking up to you, and in those moments, they’re truly looking out for you.

When You Realize that Your Kids Don’t Need Help Doing [Insert Here]

This realization is a mixed blessing. If we all could, we’d keep our kids young, free, and safe forever. But, sadly, that’s not how time—or life—works. Time marches on, and life opens all kids up to less-than-pleasant possibilities.

If you’ve done your job as a parent well, though, this won’t matter quite so much. Your kids will be prepared to face any of the challenges life throws at them. That’s why it’s so important to recognize all of the moments when your kids don’t need help doing [insert task here, whatever that task may be: cutting their meat, riding a bike, writing a letter, getting a job; the list goes on].

That list doesn’t go on forever, unfortunately. There will come a day when you witness the last small joy of parenthood: when your kids become parents themselves. Luckily, all that means is that you get to start reliving those joys as a grandparent.

That’s the beauty of life: the small joys are endless.

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